Feelings of anxiety, loneliness, and depression are common in today’s world. However, working to improve your own state of mind is something that can be done – and should be, all through a few simple techniques like the ones outlined below.
1- Try mindfulness techniques
Mindfulness is an actual psychotherapy technique, but, in actuality it’s also strongly tied in with the universally human capacity for empathy. In other words, behaving mindfully toward others, experts explain, means living proactively in the present moment, understanding their needs, and fulfilling them to the extent to which you are willing to accommodate them. It’s part caring, part generosity, but, above and beyond all this, it’s a manner of living openly, in order to attract new, beneficial people in your life.
2- Step outside your comfort zone
Nothing is more detrimental to one’s livelihood, creativity, and sense of fulfillment than the sensation that you’re living in a rut. Luckily, feeling stuck can be easily solved nowadays. All you need to do is step outside your bubble of comfort and do something that challenges you. If you feel unskilled, sign up for a free course. If going out tires you, ask a good friend to join you out on the town, for a pressure-free evening. If your financial situation will not allow it, simply socialize online, as much as you can – either with old, comforting friends, or with new ones. You’re bound to get some response sooner or later.
3- Improve your life
Easier said than done, right? Not really. Ever since the industrial revolution (hint: it happened some three centuries ago) humanity as a whole has been working toward improving the quality of life. Nowadays, there’s a gadget for everything. If you’ve got a nicotine habit, try the BLU electronic cigarette. It’s easy to use, simple to charge, and can be carried around without too much hassle. If you want to start working out, but feel uneasy or self-conscious about joining a gym, all you need to do is purchase a home fitness machine of your choice (treadmill or stationary bike, for instance) and you’re good to go. The important thing to bear in mind is that you need to identify whatever it is you want to change about yourself. After that, as if by magic, people will be automatically more drawn to the improved, more self-assured new you.
4- Adjust your expectations to reality
Understand that change happens progressively. In today’s day and age, we have been educated to believe in instant gratification and the culture of ‘now’. However, the truth is everything that’s worth having needs to be earned. As such, if your goal is to become more socially active, fulfilled, or connected, you need to understand this is not going to happen overnight – and it’s also not a process that can be rushed or forced. Think of the friends you already have and how those relationships emerged naturally, without any pressure. You need to constantly remind yourself of this, if you are to succeed.
5- Understand you can only control your own emotions
Many men and women fall prey to the temptation of believing they can control or manipulate others. The fact is – they can’t. Control strategies, which arise out of emotional neediness, will only work for so long and will prove especially successful on people who are insecure enough to be controlled. The rest of the time they’ll just backfire with a bang.